4 Parental Relationship Themes That Might Literally Be Killing You

And The Practice That World Renowned Psychologists Use to Correct it.

Let’s talk about the relationship between your health, your ability to earn income, your ability to achieve goals, and the relationship you have to your parents.

It may sound like something out of a metaphysical or spiritual handbook but the 1997 35-year longitudinal Harvard study and the 1991 John Hopkins University “Familial and Psychological Predicters of Cancer” study amongst others (studies) have shown that your relationship with each of your parents has a direct correlation to the state of your health - and your relationships.

Whatever they did or didn’t do, we each have a homing beacon in our DNA that compulsively sends energy toward our birth parents. Award-winning psychiatrist and psychologist, Mark Wolynn theorizes that individuals who have positive or warm connections with their parents receive a boost in life vitality from this sent and reciprocal energy. 

But for those of (us) that have experienced disruptions, this beacon can become a one-sided energy signal that satisfies its need to connect through compulsive patterns and aches in the body. In his best-seller psychobiology book, It Didn’t Start With You (IDSWY), Dr. Wolynn breaks down the four unconscious themes that disrupt the “life energy” you receive from your parents - that subsequently disrupts your ability to “earn money, maintain healthy relationships, achieve goals, and remain healthy.” He also describes the process of bridging this energy gap to remedy the life disruptions it creates using “core language maps” whether your parents are living, deceased, or simply out of touch.

Today we’ll discuss the overview of these themes, the consequences of these disruptions, the research behind it, and how to begin the process of repair. Then over the next 6 weeks we’ll do weekly deep dives into each disruption type and how to repair it, whether your parent is living, deceased, or simply unknown. Paid subscribers will have access to each individual study and breakdown. Free members will be able to access a brief overview and a preview of each type. 

By the end of these 6 weeks, you’ll have the tools and language required to better understand the connection between your health, relationship status, your ability to accomplish goals, and your relationship with your parents.

The Four Unconcious Themes

1. We have merged with a parent

2. We have rejected a parent

3. We have experienced a break in the early bond with our mother

4. We have identified with a member of our family system other than our parent

Any of these themes can hinder our ability to flourish and limit our ability to achieve goals, our health, and our success. And they often rear their ugly heads in the behavior we practice in our relationships and appear in our words. But the words are in fact the very key. The language we use builds a map that allows us to find the source of our familial trauma and the remedy for releasing it from our bodies and minds.

This process is called Language Mapping.